Code Of Conduct

The vision of LAF is to support families in the building of Christ-like character: “to grow in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and men.” (Luke 2:52)

General Expectations

All participants, students and parents are required to respect and adhere to all guidelines at all times when attending LAF events or classes or representing LAF (e.g. wearing an LAF t-shirt), including the following:

  1. Adhere to the LAF Statement of Faith

  2. Maintain a positive attitude and an open mind for learning

  3. Respect and obey those in authority

  4. Respect and honor your peers (zero tolerance for rude, mean or bullying behavior, as defined in the Support Group Handbook)

  5. Respect private and/or public property (you damage or break it, you pay for it)

  6. Respect individual’s property: devices, projects, bags, etc. (you damage or break it you pay for it)

  7. Arrive to events, trips, workshops, or classes on time out of respect for other families, facilitators, and businesses/organizations serving LAF

  8. Abstain from any public display of affection between those in dating/courting relationships (for exceptions, see the High School Dance PDA guidelines

  9. Clean up after yourself (parents help your younger children) at all LAF functions and classes

  10. Abstain from using or having possession of any alcohol, tobacco, vaping, or electronic cigarettes products, or illegal substances

  11. Understand that weapons are strictly prohibited (firearms, knives, tasers, pepper spray, etc…) without a State of Florida Concealed Weapon or Firearm License

  12. Cell phone usage should be limited and always uphold the values outlined in our Statement of Faith

Dress Code

Modesty and integrity are always the standards with respect to the fit and type of clothing.


  1. Shorts and skirts must be at fingertip or longer

  2. No undergarments may be showing (underwear, bras)

  3. No bare midriffs

  4. No low-cut necklines; no cleavage showing

  5. Shirt sleeves are to be two-inches wide or wider; no spaghetti straps

  6. Leggings: must wear top, shorts, or skirt that adequately covers student’s bottom at an appropriate length

  7. No objectionable logos, phrases or images

  8. See Prom Dress Code for exceptions to the standard dress code outlined here



  1. Pants/shorts must be worn at reasonable waistline; no underwear showing

  2. Must wear a t-shirt under sleeveless sport jerseys

  3. No objectionable logos, phrases or images

  4. See Prom Dress Code for exceptions to the standard dress code outlined here

Electronic Device Policy

Students may have “silenced” cell phones and mobile communication devices on their person while at Learning and Families functions. At the LAF co-op, students are only permitted to use cell phones and mobile communication devices before and after classes in common areas outside the classroom. Each co-op facilitator has the right to permit the use of cell phones and mobile communication devices for instructional purposes. The use of these devices during instructional time without the permission of the facilitator, or in a disruptive manner in the co-op setting is prohibited. 

During any and all LAF functions, students shall not use a cell phone or mobile communication device to violate the LAF Code of Conduct. Examples of unacceptable usage can include but are not limited to:

  • In restrooms

  • For cheating

  • For cyber bullying, sexting, and taking/viewing unpermitted pictures or videos. 

LAF facilitators, leaders, and parent volunteers have the right to ask a student to not view a particular image or website that they deem inappropriate. 

Cell phones and mobile communication devices that ring, vibrate excessively, or in any other way disrupt the educational process of a class, event, trip or function, are grounds for confiscation of the device by LAF leadership or co-op facilitators. 

In the event that a student’s cell phone or other electronic device is confiscated, parents will be contacted and may claim the student’s device from an LAF leader or co-op supervisor (if the offense occurred during co-op). Contents of cell phones may be reviewed and searched together with an LAF Supervisor/leader and a parent/guardian if there exists a reasonable suspicion that it may have been used in an activity prohibited by the Code of Conduct. The student assumes all risks in bringing such devices onto an LAF affiliated property or to any related functions. 

Consequences for inappropriate use of electronic devices as described above may

  1. Result in a written disciplinary Violation Report

  2. Require the device be turned over to the appropriate LAF leader

  3. Result in contacting of appropriate authorities in the case of potential illegal activity on an electronic device

LAF assumes no responsibility for theft, loss, or damage of an electronic device brought to a co-op or any LAF-related function.

Rude, Mean, and Bullying

Although none of these behaviors are acceptable within Learning and Families, it is important to have a shared language and understand the difference between these behaviors so that when we address it with LAF children, we are clear about how the behavior was wrong and what we can do to resolve it. The following definitions are taken from an article that appeared in Psychology Today on November 25, 2012 and will be used as such in the discipline process.

Rude = Inadvertently saying or doing something that hurts someone else

Rudeness might look like burping in someone’s face, jumping ahead in line, bragging, eating a bite of someone’s snack without permission, etc. Incidents of rudeness are usually spontaneous, unplanned, inconsiderate, based on thoughtlessness or poor manners, but the motive behind rudeness is not to actually hurt someone.

Mean = Purposefully saying or doing something to hurt someone 

The main distinction between “rude” and “mean” behaviors lies in the motive. Rudeness is unintentional, but mean behavior aims to hurt or depreciate someone. Kids are mean when they criticize clothing, appearance, intelligence or anything they can find to denigrate. Meanness can also be words spoken in anger — impulsive cruelty is often regretted in short order. Rudeness that is repeated after it has been addressed can also cross the line into meanness. 

Bullying = Intentionally aggressive behavior, repeated over time, that involves an imbalance of power

Experts agree that bullying entails three key elements:

  1. An intent to harm

  2. A power imbalance

  3. Repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior

Kids who bully say or do something intentionally hurtful and continue doing it with no sense of regret or remorse, even when the victim expresses hurt and tells the aggressor to stop. Bullying may be physical, verbal, relational, or carried out via technology. Physical aggression includes hitting, punching, kicking, spitting, tripping, hair-pulling, etc. Verbal aggression includes abusive and hurtful words to intimidate and/or denigrate. Relational aggression includes social exclusion, shunning, hazing, and rumor spreading.

Disciplinary Guidelines

In any correction situation, the goal will always be effective communication and a change of heart and behavior. In the event of a violation of this Code of Conduct, an LAF representative will complete a Violation Report, which will be shared with the family and kept on file. The Learning and Families Board of Directors reserves the right to limit or revoke support group participation in the event of multiple violation reports.